In the 7 years I’ve lived in France, I’ve seen my fair share of bad tourist behavior from people who don’t know anything about etiquette in France. Here are the 3 top France travel tips that go a long way… but tourists often forget about them entirely or just aren’t aware of these etiquette in France norms.
Etiquette in France: 3 Things tourists forget!
No one expects tourists to speak great French or know all about etiquette in France. That would be absurd. But what is reasonable is to be aware of cultural norms and do your best to be respectful of French culture and the French when on their turf. We’re visitors, after all. It’s a learning experience and we all make mistakes, so start your next trip in France off on the right foot. I’ve put together my top 3 France travel tips based on what I know about etiquette in France and what I’ve observed over the years.Even if you're just passing through an area of #France for a day or two, knowing these 3 #travel tips goes a long way toward how you're perceived and treated.Click To Tweet
Even if you’re just passing through an area of France for a day or two, knowing these 3 things below goes a long way toward how you’re perceived and treated in France. They are the top overarching Paris travel tips that apply to all areas of France actually in pretty much any situation. These are the Golden Rules of etiquette in France, if you will, and I’m taking a hard stance because yes, these France travel tips are that important.
The good news is they’re easy to implement. Keep in mind that ignoring the 3 France travel tips I talk about below will most likely result in a sub-par experience. I can almost guarantee that French people will be less than friendly and accommodating toward you if you don’t take these French culture and etiquette tips into consideration.
So let’s get to my France travel tips that work for Paris or anywhere.
3 Paris and France etiquette tips you need to know for your next trip:
1. They forget that “bonjour” is a mandatory word.
In some areas of the world, you can get away with starting off an interaction without saying hello. Where you’re from, maybe greetings are always considered polite but not mandatory.
In France, beginning any interaction with a “bonjour” is as close to mandatory as any rule is for foreigners and locals alike. Forgoing the compulsory bonjour (or “bonsoir” in the evening) is not only out of touch with French norms but it will communicate to French people that you’re lacking in basic education. This is one of those etiquette in France tips that is so easy to nail every time that once you know it, make a mental note so it’s automatic.
So who do you say bonjour to? EVERYONE YOU HAVE AN EXCHANGE WITH! (But one thing, don’t hug them.) Say bonjour before kicking off any interaction. If you’re going to be speaking to another human about something, even just a quick question, you need to say bonjour first. Yes, really.
This does not mean shouting it across a restaurant to a busy bartender with his back turned to you. That would be silly. But if a hostess or waiter approaches you, say bonjour. Same goes for the grocery store employee, the shopkeeper, the market vendors, the ticket collector, the guy on the street you approach for directions, etc.
Depending on where and how you were raised, saying hello first and foremost may seem like common sense. In some households in the USA, approaching anyone ever and starting to talk before saying hello first would be majorly rude.
But the more I observe my own people, it’s commonplace to just go up to someone in a service position and launch into your request. “Give me a half pound of ham,” said a guy at the Publix deli counter back stateside in Florida last year, forgetting not only his hello but a thanks and please too. Same thing at Starbucks. A woman busily scrolling through her Instagram feed didn’t even look up when she ordered. “A grande skim vanilla latte,” she said and the employee rang her up. In both cases, the employee didn’t blink and got right to work.
Neither of those instances would fly in France. Everyone in earshot would think you’re majorly rude and maybe not say anything, but they’d sure as heck think it. And in some cases, I’ve seen employees just stare at the person or repeatedly say bonjour and do nothing until the person realizes their error and starts again by saying bonjour.
Like any big city, people get away with rudeness all the time, but that’s not a reason to be rude yourself. I feel like as foreigners, we need to step up our game and be better than all of the tourists doing the wrong thing.
Sure, you can do whatever you want and bark orders at people, but why? In Paris, locals are used to tourists not knowing the rules, but if you’re reading this, it means you’re interested in making a good impression because you care about these things. Go you! I like you already. 😉Like any big city, people get away with rudeness all the time, but that's not a reason to be rude yourself. I feel like as foreigners, we need to step up our game. These are my top 3 #France travel tips tourists forget.Click To Tweet
Here’s the thing. This is one of those things about etiquette in France that goes beyond merely being polite and respectful of French culture. In my opinion, this goes toward letting another human being know they’re being seen. They’re not just there to serve others because it’s their job or to help you because you’re a tourist. Before there’s any “ask,” there’s a brief but necessary acknowledgment of “Hey, I see you, fellow human. I know you don’t have to help me but I’m starting off by being polite. Let’s proceed, please.”
If you want to learn a few more polite phrases that will help you make a good first impression, I’ve written about that here. This comprehensive French travel phrase post (with audio) might also be of interest as well as my readers’ best France travel tips. I also have an eGuide with beginner France travel info for a standout trip.
2. They forget to make an effort with French (even if they know only 3 words)
Beyond #1 above, merci (thank you) and please (s’il vous plait) go a long way. Three words make a difference. Au revoir (goodbye) if you want to get fancy, so 4. If you didn’t learn them in your middle school French class, learn and practice them before you even get off the plane. It does not matter if you have an accent that makes you barely understandable.
Do your best to try, even if you think you sound ridiculous. What’s way more ridiculous than how you think you sound is a tourist not even trying at all and just walking up to a French person and saying hello in English. NO! This is France. I know it feels weird to bust out your limited French, especially if the person you’re speaking to speaks some English, but do it anyway.
In the name of all things holy, do your best to learn at least hello, thanks, and please in French. And use them often. Everyone is capable of that. Otherwise, you risk being perceived as someone who is culturally tone deaf and will receive the corresponding service. I guess if that sits fine with you, go for it, but really, how hard is it to learn 3 words?
Here’s a post that goes into why making an effort in French as a tourist is super-duper important. My take is if you can do simple things to have a better experience, why not?
3. They forget to experience things without making judgment calls.
This is France, where things are done the French way. It’s not America. English is not the native language. We need to be respectful of the people and the country we’re visiting. That means to keep cultural judgments to ourselves and not audibly criticize the French (or at all!) after a limited experience in the country. You wouldn’t believe how many times I’ve been around someone who’s loudly proclaiming they don’t have a big hotel bathroom and nice bed to their traveling companions or that the French are always inconveniencing tourists with their stupid store hours and strikes.
Or that French waiters are SO rude (after only one restaurant experience, and forgetting to say bonjour, because of course they did).
What someone is really saying when they exclaim, “This hotel room is tiny,” is “This hotel room is tiny compared to what my money would get me back home.” Or, “This restaurant’s service is super slow” means “This restaurant’s service is super slow compared to what I’m used to back home.”
Go ahead and notice the differences, but try to resist making judgment calls that deem one way of doing things better than the other and then getting all bent out of shape about it. Part of traveling is taking in the experience and the cultural differences, no matter how uncomfortable they can sometimes be.
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It is normal to notice differences and talk about them. It’s a fun topic of conversation and I do it often on this blog. Culture shock is real and I remind myself to not make judgment calls all the time. It’s not normal, though, to expect everything to be like it is at home and then write off France as being “less than.”
If you’re looking for a replica of your home country, just with different scenery, why spend all the money and time to get to France? Take in all the differences, observe, learn, and experience them.
France is nothing like the USA in a lot of ways. That’s a good thing! How boring would the world be if we experienced the same things everywhere across the globe? Yes, certain things about France (or anywhere) can be maddening, but use it as a lesson to just go with the flow.
Oh, and enjoy your trip to France!
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