This time of year, New Year’s resolutions are on everyone’s mind. If you’re reflecting on 2021 and you plan on setting some goals for yourself, even loose ones, I want to share this one goal setting tip with you. It’s something I often remind myself of because if you’re a high-achieving person with a bit of a perfectionist streak, we tend to go big and bold — except that can be self-defeating. In reality, achieving our goals works a lot better if we can build on our success if we actually want to continue being successful. Let me explain what I mean.
What are some of the top New Year’s resolutions you’ve heard thrown around in your social circle over the past couple of weeks? Maybe they have to do with health and fitness, nutrition, finances, reading more, spending more time with your kids or family, etc.
We set out with the best intentions in January, but a lot of times we set goals that aren’t easily achievable or realistic. We shoot too high and I’m speaking from experience here. Then we start missing the mark, blowing the goal for days at a time and it leads to us feeling defeated instead of feeling like we’re on the right track.
The biggest tip I can give you is to purposely set goals that you know are doable. Go easy. That will set us up to succeed.
Let’s take a look at a few examples of what I mean in practice:
General goal: Read more. (set by someone who doesn’t read at all now)
Goal that’s not easy to maintain: Read one book a week.
Achievable: Read 10 minutes a night, 3 days a week
General goal: Get fit. (set by someone who is currently sedentary)
Goal that’s not easy to maintain: Work out 1 hour per day, 5 days per week
Achievable: Work out for 20 minutes, 3 days per week.
Those are just two examples above, but the point I’m trying to make is set out with goals that you know you can achieve. When you easily stick to the realistic plan you’ve set out and crush it, you’ll feel accomplished and successful and it’ll be that much easier to build upon the positive habits you’ve set in motion.
Then build on that success a little at a time. Majorly changing your routine in one fell swoop doesn’t work for most people, but what most people can succeed at are making intentional small changes.
When I want to make positive changes, I always remind myself to start small so I can guarantee my success and then build on that success. I purposely under shoot because just by achieving that very little thing, it tells my subconscious that I’m doing something positive and that I’m capable.
I feel the mental shift. It leaves me feeling confident that I can do what I’ve set out to achieve. Even if it’s something silly. And then that small success will allow me to build upon it and then maybe the next month I can make a slightly more difficult yet still achievable goal.
For me, I want to get better with cooking, so setting out with a goal of cooking every single meal 100% from scratch would be a recipe for failure. But what’s more doable is planning to make two dinners each week from scratch and taking the steps over the weekend to buy the ingredients to make it happen. If I end up doing three, great!
Personally speaking, this year I’m taking all the pressure off myself and not putting much on my plate in terms of lofty goals or resolutions. 2021 was the hardest year of my life and I think I’ll be recovering from that for a while.
No matter where you are in life, little milestones or goals along the way help us to keep moving forward. Even if they’re just casual ideas we throw around in our head.
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Here are a few of my loose goals:
Personal: Add to my savings account, walk more, read more, listen to more French-language podcasts, and practice being kinder to myself.
Professional: Be more strategic on YouTube and go at a more relaxed pace, a page view/ad revenue goal with the blog, improve my business vocabulary in French.
I’d love for you to share with me some of your goals/intentions or resolutions if you’re planning on making any or just some casual ideas you’ve thrown around or areas where you want to do better. Talk to me below in the comments! What goal setting tips have worked for you over the years?